Our Letter To Birth Parents
Dear Friend,
We are aware that you stand at a difficult crossroad. We truly admire you for examining your options and relying on faith to make an informed decision about where to go next. If possible, we hope that our paths will meet and subsequently send us both down roads leading to peace and joy.
Our Background
We have been married for 6 years and dated an additional 6 years before that. We hate to be apart, so we have done whatever we can together. We grew up in the same town, played in the same band, and even shared the same leadership roles. We fell helplessly in love our junior year of high school (and have been ever since). Ryan was baptized our senior year; then we went to our local community college together. Afterward, we served missions at the same time in very different parts of the world. Ryan served in Venezuela; Tawny served in Japan. We were married in the Seattle temple shortly after our return. Our first home was in Utah, where we attended Brigham Young University. Ryan studied mechanical engineering and math. Tawny studied English teaching, humanities, and Japanese. While putting ourselves through school, we were lucky enough to get jobs together on two separate occasions. After graduating from BYU, we returned home to Washington. Ryan was hired with the federal department of defense. Tawny substitute taught at the local junior high and high school, but is committed to staying home with our future children. We enjoy any time spent together, particularly making each other laugh, making dinner, spending time with friends, going kayaking, walking, bike riding, reading, grocery shopping, sightseeing, and traveling. Our relationship has always been a happy one, even though our life experiences have sometimes been adverse. Tawny suffers from rheumatoid arthritis and has had to endure a lot of physical and emotional pain. But she has also been blessed to find a medication that now keeps her body stable. We fear that taking her off it for a pregnancy might cause complications. This—and a lot of prayer—is why we have come to rely on extraordinary souls like yourself. Without you, our lives cannot progress.
We are aware that you stand at a difficult crossroad. We truly admire you for examining your options and relying on faith to make an informed decision about where to go next. If possible, we hope that our paths will meet and subsequently send us both down roads leading to peace and joy.
Our Background
We have been married for 6 years and dated an additional 6 years before that. We hate to be apart, so we have done whatever we can together. We grew up in the same town, played in the same band, and even shared the same leadership roles. We fell helplessly in love our junior year of high school (and have been ever since). Ryan was baptized our senior year; then we went to our local community college together. Afterward, we served missions at the same time in very different parts of the world. Ryan served in Venezuela; Tawny served in Japan. We were married in the Seattle temple shortly after our return. Our first home was in Utah, where we attended Brigham Young University. Ryan studied mechanical engineering and math. Tawny studied English teaching, humanities, and Japanese. While putting ourselves through school, we were lucky enough to get jobs together on two separate occasions. After graduating from BYU, we returned home to Washington. Ryan was hired with the federal department of defense. Tawny substitute taught at the local junior high and high school, but is committed to staying home with our future children. We enjoy any time spent together, particularly making each other laugh, making dinner, spending time with friends, going kayaking, walking, bike riding, reading, grocery shopping, sightseeing, and traveling. Our relationship has always been a happy one, even though our life experiences have sometimes been adverse. Tawny suffers from rheumatoid arthritis and has had to endure a lot of physical and emotional pain. But she has also been blessed to find a medication that now keeps her body stable. We fear that taking her off it for a pregnancy might cause complications. This—and a lot of prayer—is why we have come to rely on extraordinary souls like yourself. Without you, our lives cannot progress.
Growing up in such a large family, Tawny learned a lot about sharing and caring for others. There was not a lot of money for the latest clothes or games. Because of that, she is very thrifty. These qualities make Tawny a very down-to-earth person. It has been Tawny’s dream to have a family and be a mom since before we got married. She loves playing and spending time with kids. At the same time, she knows how to discipline with love.
Our Goals as Parents
Thinking about adoption brings us and our extended family such hope. We want the very best for our future children. To accomplish this, we have done everything we can to prepare our lives and living situation to meet a child’s needs. Tawny stopped working and, thanks to her medication, she is physically capable to devote all her time and energy to a little one. Ryan has a dependable job with a comfortable income and regular raises. We recently purchased a home in a rural area, which offers nearby parks, beaches, and farms. We envision a life for our children that includes a variety of options. We will support them in any music, sport, or academic endeavor they choose. We plan to spend a lot of time reading, doing fun projects, and playing outdoors. We’d like to regularly visit nearby attractions and museums to foster an appreciation of life, history, art, and hard work. Most importantly, we will teach them that Jesus is their loving Savior and that the scriptures are the word of God. If desired, we are happy to share letters and photos of your incredible legacy of love. Our children will always know of your great selflessness. We send you our intense admiration and love, praying that whatever you decide, your path will be prepared for you. We sincerely hope you can imagine the beauty that most certainly lies ahead. With deepest gratitude,
Ryan & Tawny
Our Goals as Parents
Thinking about adoption brings us and our extended family such hope. We want the very best for our future children. To accomplish this, we have done everything we can to prepare our lives and living situation to meet a child’s needs. Tawny stopped working and, thanks to her medication, she is physically capable to devote all her time and energy to a little one. Ryan has a dependable job with a comfortable income and regular raises. We recently purchased a home in a rural area, which offers nearby parks, beaches, and farms. We envision a life for our children that includes a variety of options. We will support them in any music, sport, or academic endeavor they choose. We plan to spend a lot of time reading, doing fun projects, and playing outdoors. We’d like to regularly visit nearby attractions and museums to foster an appreciation of life, history, art, and hard work. Most importantly, we will teach them that Jesus is their loving Savior and that the scriptures are the word of God. If desired, we are happy to share letters and photos of your incredible legacy of love. Our children will always know of your great selflessness. We send you our intense admiration and love, praying that whatever you decide, your path will be prepared for you. We sincerely hope you can imagine the beauty that most certainly lies ahead. With deepest gratitude,
Ryan & Tawny
What Tawny would like you to know about Ryan
Ryan is the one true rock in my life. He has supported and helped me through some very trying times. He is incredibly funny, patient, loving, and handy. He builds me up and encourages me. In addition, he often helps our friends and family members with their computers, electronics, cars, and relationships. Ryan refuses to be stumped by any obstacle; he tackles it until he is satisfied with a solution. He is the voice of reason wherever he goes, because he tries to consider every angle of each situation. These qualities have helped him work out a variety of problems in his profession and ward/financial clerking duties. Ryan has always been family-oriented. He feels a great sense of respect and devotion for his parents and siblings. He truly appreciates the time and energy they dedicated to one another while growing up. In addition, Ryan chose a career path 10 years ago that would allow him to comfortably provide for his future family. He even takes off work to be with me for my medical appointments. I can’t wait to see Ryan as a father. It is a role for which he is perfectly prepared and suited.
What Ryan would like you to know about Tawny
Tawny is my best friend and I am so glad I get to be with her every day. She is the sweetest and most caring person I have ever known. She is always going out of her way to be a friend to those around her. Tawny has amazing empathy for people’s struggles and has a way of helping others see the best in themselves. Tawny is one of the hardest workers that I know. I don’t think she has ever taken the easy way out of any task in her life. She has a love of learning and loves to teach others. In college, she took many extra classes even though they were not required. She has always worked hard to do her very best with church callings, especially right now teaching seminary. Despite the many trials she has faced in her life, particularly regarding her health, she almost never complains.
Ryan is the one true rock in my life. He has supported and helped me through some very trying times. He is incredibly funny, patient, loving, and handy. He builds me up and encourages me. In addition, he often helps our friends and family members with their computers, electronics, cars, and relationships. Ryan refuses to be stumped by any obstacle; he tackles it until he is satisfied with a solution. He is the voice of reason wherever he goes, because he tries to consider every angle of each situation. These qualities have helped him work out a variety of problems in his profession and ward/financial clerking duties. Ryan has always been family-oriented. He feels a great sense of respect and devotion for his parents and siblings. He truly appreciates the time and energy they dedicated to one another while growing up. In addition, Ryan chose a career path 10 years ago that would allow him to comfortably provide for his future family. He even takes off work to be with me for my medical appointments. I can’t wait to see Ryan as a father. It is a role for which he is perfectly prepared and suited.
What Ryan would like you to know about Tawny
Tawny is my best friend and I am so glad I get to be with her every day. She is the sweetest and most caring person I have ever known. She is always going out of her way to be a friend to those around her. Tawny has amazing empathy for people’s struggles and has a way of helping others see the best in themselves. Tawny is one of the hardest workers that I know. I don’t think she has ever taken the easy way out of any task in her life. She has a love of learning and loves to teach others. In college, she took many extra classes even though they were not required. She has always worked hard to do her very best with church callings, especially right now teaching seminary. Despite the many trials she has faced in her life, particularly regarding her health, she almost never complains.